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Beauty from Ashes – The Gathering 2008
October 22, 2008

This is the video for The Gathering to Remember on April of 2008.



Open house videos
November 30, 2007

Can you be thankful?
November 22, 2007

     WOW!  Here it is Thanksgiving morning.  Another year passed by in the blink of an eye.  November is a tough month for me.  My Dad died in November of 1997 and then my son, Cole, in 2003.  Losing a parent at 25 and then losing a baby are grief journeys I never thought I would have to travel, yet here I am.  Everyone wants to know what you are thankful for on Thanksgiving.  Maybe that is a tough question for you this year or maybe you don’t feel thankful for anything.  That’s OK.  Each year is as different and individual as are the feelings that follow after losing a baby.  In years past I did not feel very thankful but this year I am thankful.  I am thankful for my husband who loves me and takes care of me in so many ways.  I am thankful for my two living children who bring me happiness and joy everyday.  I am thankful for my extended families and the health we have had this year after years that have been filled with illness and for the blessings that we have all received.  And lastly, yet most importantly, I am thankful for Christ and the relationship that I have with Him and that through Him I will someday hold my son again and that someday I will be held by my Dad.  Can you find something to be thankful for?  Have you survived the hardest year of your life?  Have you learned to be the proud mother of a heavenly child?  Has God brought you peace after your loss?  Have you formed friendships or become closer to people you never knew would be there for you?  Search your heart today and ask yourself . . . what can I be thankful for this year?  Maybe there is something.


Group tomorrow, Oct. 8th, at our new location!
October 8, 2007

It is hard to believe that our new location is complete and ready for us to meet at!  We have put many months into preparing a special place we can all call our own and we are so excited for you to see Tiny Purpose’s new location!  It is peaceful and comforatbale, it is safe and promotes openess and sharing and it is a place that we can all enjoy.  We hope to see you at 357 Sherman Street in Blissfield tomorrow night, October 8th (remember with a new location comes a new night) from 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm.  If you have any questions about directions feel free to call 517-486-2140 and speak to one of us directly.  Look for the green Tiny Purpose signs at the corner of US 223 and Jipson Street and then again at the corner of Jipson Street and Sherman Street.

A Mother Remembers…
September 12, 2007

When I woke up this morning at 5:00 a.m., I immediately began the journey back to September 12, 1998.  Nine years ago today shortly before 5:00 a.m. I was awakened by my nurse telling me my son was not doing well.  By the time I got both of my kids on the school bus today the hour had already passed when nine years ago my son took his last breath here on earth.  If I was honest I would say that although the date of September 12 never passed without my awareness of what that day stood for, I often spent the day running from the memories.  I don’t often allow myself to recall the events of that early morning.  For the first few years, I didn’t feel entitled to be sad.  Because of having a twin pregnancy I was able to bring one baby home.  But now when I allow myself to recall how it felt holding my tiny baby boy, all of 2lb 7ozs, for the first time….well words seem to fall short.  I felt my heart swell out of my chest at the elation of having this baby I carried for 30 weeks finally in my arms.  It was an amazing feeling of completeness.  But as quickly as my heart swelled, it busted into a million pieces when I heard the doctor call out his time of death.  For those brief moments I was simply a new mom holding her brand new baby boy for the first time.  I was enjoying the shape of his nose and the fuzz on his head.  There was no room in that moment for the reality that he was dying or the knowledge that the first time I held him would also be my last.

I’m not the same person I was when I was admitted to the hospital back in 1998.  The experience of those 3 shorts days with both of my first sons has left its mark.  But I’m not running anymore.  Today I allowed my memory to take me back to that moment when they first laid Chase in my arms.  I am letting my heart remember the details of his little face and his tiny little hands.  I am giving myself permission to revel in the completeness that his life brought to mine.  The pain of having that bond severed is still part of that memory but without the pain I would have never experienced the tremendous comfort and healing that God has provided for me.  That alone gives me a hope that still sustains me through this life nine years later.


God bless,


Caleb & Ian: A Father’s Story
September 8, 2007

For those of you who don’t know, my wife and I had to deliver our 
still born twins two nights ago at 17 weeks.  We have been trying for 
these babies for 10 years and through the miracle of fertility 
medicines and procedures we became pregnant with these wonderful 
lives.  Of course, we are emotionally devastated and still don’t 
understand the depth of our grief and sorrow. The next few months, all 
that will play out.  All we know that our God is still Sovereign.  For 
many, this could of shaken their faith and maybe even keep God distant 
for a time.  For us, this has strengthened our faith and made our 
trust and love for God so much stronger and deeper. I can say that 
Andrea and I feel closer and more intimate bond with God now than ever 
before.  As we held these babies in our hands and said goodbye to them 
for the time we are on this earth, we worshipped and thanked God for 
them.  In 2 Samuel we see the same situation with David
16 David pleaded with God for the child. He fasted and went into his 
house and spent the nights lying on the ground. 
17 The elders of his household stood beside him to get him up from the ground,
 but he refused, and he would not eat any food with them. 
 18 On the seventh day the child died. David's servants were afraid to 
tell him that the child was dead, for they thought, "While the child 
was still living, we spoke to David but he would not listen to us. How 
can we tell him the child is dead? He may do something desperate." 
 19 David noticed that his servants were whispering among themselves 
and he realized the child was dead. "Is the child dead?" he asked. 
 "Yes," they replied, "he is dead." 
 20 Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on 
lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the LORD 
and worshiped. Then he went to his own house, and at his request they 
served him food, and he ate. 
 21 His servants asked him, "Why are you acting this way? While the 
child was alive, you fasted and wept, but now that the child is dead, 
you get up and eat!" 
 22 He answered, "While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept. 
I thought, 'Who knows? The LORD may be gracious to me and let the 
child live.' 23 But now that he is dead, why should I fast? Can I 
bring him back again? I will go to him, but he will not return to me." 
 24 Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and 
lay with her. She gave birth to a son, and they named him Solomon. 
There is no other option for Andrea and I but to trust God. True trust 
is trusting him when he doesn’t answer. Trust is not authentic when we 
have an escape route or a backup plan if God doesn’t come through.  We 
have no other option but to draw closer to God and know that he will 
work everything out to our good, because we love and serve him. Just 
like God gave David, Solomon, maybe he will give us another 
opportunity for a child. Andrea and I did and will continue to praise 
him through this storm and every storm God walks us through.  The 
words of this song by Casting Crowns are the words of our heart right 
I was sure by now
that you would have reached down
and wiped our tears away
stepped in and saved the day
but once again, i say "amen", and it's still raining
As the thunder rolls
I barely hear your whisper through the rain
"I'm with you"
and as you mercy falls
I raise my hands and praise the god who gives
and takes away
I'll praise you in this storm
and i will lift my hands
for you are who you are
no matter where i am
every tear i've cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
and though my heart is torn
I will praise you in this storm
Paul said that we should “consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever 
you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of 
your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so 
that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything”.  Andrea 
and I both understand that God has a reason for this storm and in his 
infinite wisdom he will unveil to us that reason.  It may be in a few 
months, a few years, or maybe in heaven.  Either way, he is a good God 
and wants to give us good gifts, because we are his Children and He is 
our Daddy.  Whether God answers our prayers or chooses to ignore our 
pleas, he will always offer calm and peace through the storm. He will 
stop the storm, or calm the child through the storm
All who sail the sea of faith 
Find out before too long 
How quickly blue skies can grow dark 
And gentle winds grow strong 
Suddenly fear is like white water 
Pounding on the soul 
Still we sail on knowing 
That our Lord is in control  
He has a reason for each trial 
That we pass through in life 
And though we're shaken 
We cannot be pulled apart from Christ 
No matter how the driving rain beats down 
On those who hold to faith 
A heart of trust will always 
Be a quiet peaceful place
Sometimes He calms the storm 
With a whispered peace be still 
He can settle any sea 
But it doesn't mean He will 
Sometimes He holds us close 
And lets the wind and waves go wild 
Sometimes He calms the storm 
And other times He calms His child
For the past week, my wife and I could not feel God, rather, it felt 
like God was turning his back on us. Everytime we pleaded and cried out 
for help. Last night, Andrea was shivering uncontrollably from the 
fever and the sorrow and emotions of the week. She had several muscle 
spasms and no matter how many people held her down, the shaking would 
not stop.  She started to worship and all of a sudden, peace entered 
the room and her body relaxed and was at rest.  She closed her eyes, 
and as she did she saw Jesus, like a man, with a circle of light 
around him.  In his two hands, Andrea saw both of our babies at full 
term, kicking and laughing.  Jesus was smiling and in his face, Andrea 
could tell that he was saying these babies are alright and they are 
waiting for her.
Thank-you so much for your prayers, emails, phone calls, visits and 
support.  It has not gone unnoticed to us and to God.  Our baby boys, 
Caleb Joshua and Ian Mackay are now in heaven dancing with Jesus. 
There are no tears, no pain, and no distress.  For the first time, 
they are smiling as they see the beauty and joy of heaven.  Our hope 
now, is the day when we meet them in heaven and we get to wrap our 
arms around them and pour out our love for them.  They are not gone, 
but only waiting for our arrival.  Jesus is taking care of them now, 
and I can’t think of anyone else’s arms and care I’d rather have them 
in. So what should our response be to these recent events.  As David 
did, we have no other option but to worship and thank God that he is 
still in control. God gives and takes away, but still my heart will 
choose to say, Blessed be the name of the Lord  


Lessons from Lazarus pt. 4
September 4, 2007

When I read the fourth Lesson from Lazarus, I felt a little overwhelmed…believing and obeying are things I’ve always felt that I did, but as you know by now, I’m learning more and more everyday what faith is all about…and usually it’s with a little help from the people around me!  But the idea that the God of the universe seriously wants to interact with me and be involved in every aspect of my life is something that I’m still trying to really grasp…and really put into practice in my everyday life…and that leads to the question of whether or not I let him work in my life…Mrs. Weaver’s fourth lesson touches on this very idea…

4)      God’s plan is released when we believe and obey. “The house in Bethany was most likely filled with people following Lazarus’s death…But when someone brought the news that Jesus was coming, it was Martha, who ran to meet him… With all of the anguished honesty of deep sorrow, Martha poured out her grief. ‘Lord,’ she cried, ‘if you had been here, my brother would not have died.  But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask (verse 22)’.  Instead of trying to rewrite the story of her brother’s death—instead of putting a comma where there was a period, or a period where there could be a comma—Martha was putting the quill of their lives in Jesus’ hands.  Do whatever you want, she was saying.  Punctuate as you please.  Thy will be done.  It is this kind of surrender and that kind of resolve that sets in motion the miraculous…  We are an integral part of the writing process of our lives…  Think about this: faith and obedience go hand in hand.  It takes faith to choose obedience, and if you’re like me, it takes obedience to choose faith when you’re quaking with fear.”

Punctuate as you please.  Thy will be done.  It is this kind of surrender and that kind of resolve that sets in motion the miraculous…

This statement is so powerful to me…the concept of believe and obey can change so much in our hearts and our lives.  Could you have said at the time of your loss–“Okay, God–punctuate as you please”?  Or even today, wherever you are in your grief journey–“Thy will be done”?  I thought I was at the time of my loss, though maybe I only did to a certain point…I believe I am today, but am I giving Him my all?  What about you–regardless of where you are with a relationship with God, what does the idea of letting him be in control mean to you?

Faith and obedience go hand in hand.  It takes faith to choose obedience, and if you’re like me, it takes obedience to choose faith when you’re quaking with fear…

Tell me this–does the statement on faith and obediance ring in your spirit?  Do you have the faith to obey what God is trying to work out in your life?   Or do you have the obediance to choose faith, even when it seems foreign, or you’re unsure?  Can you look back on the steps and stages of this chapter of your life and see the Lord working in and around your life, and yet still struggle with him at the core of who you are? 

Open yourself up to see what He’s been doing in your life.  You might be surprised by what you find.  Hoping this is touching you wherever you may be in your grief journey–hoping these lessons are stretching you.  Let us all know if they are…Alaina

August 1, 2007

     Good Morning Gals!  As I write this message 9 days after our last group, I am still amazed at what a wonderful bunch of ladies we have and how everyone of you adds so much to group!  God has brought Tiny Purpose so far in the last 3 1/2 years it is truly amazing.  The golf outing was a huge success, the new location is coming along beautifully and women are sharing and growing and making steps to healing in monthly group.  How awesome!

     We taked about this Lia Sophia party that Alaina, Renee and myself are hosting at group on the 23rd but I wanted to be sure everyone new about it . . . on August 8th from 6:30 – 8:30 we will be meeting at the Christian Mission for a G.N.O.!  Girls Night Out!!!  We always talk about getting toegtehr in between groups and hanging out . . . well here is our chance!  Come hang out, snack on some yummy treats and buy yourslef a little somehting something:)  All proceeds from the party go directly to Tiny Purpose.  Thank you Kristin Earls.  Our consultant, Kristin (gotta love her with a name like that), has beautiful jewelry to look at and try on and is going to have some FREE give aways!!!  Bring a friend and enjoy some social time!  Hope to see you there . . .


Golf Outing
July 23, 2007

     WOW what a fantastic day Saturday was!  Our golf outing was a huge success.  We were blessed with a beautiful day and our turn out was outstanding.  There were 24 teams of 4 people (which is max on this course), 7 Tiny Purpose volunteers, and a bundle of fun.  We spoiled our golfers with a water hole, candy bar hole, soft serve ice cream, a coupon for a FREE meal at a Lenawee County McDonald’s, and a team photo that we will mail to each team captain.  After the outing everyone had a door prize waiting for them and a delicous steak and baked potato dinner.  Thank you to all of our voluteers and to the Harvey Hiatt family for once again choosing Tiny Purpose to be the recipient of the golf outing funds.

     Tonight is group since we postponed last week.  Hope veryone can make it.  Alaina prepared 2 chapters out of the book Grieving the Child I Never Knew as well as 2 yummy desserts:)  After our devotional time we will be assembling cards that will then be used as part of our card ministry.  Looking forward to seeing many of you . . .


Postponing July 16th Support Group
July 13, 2007

     Hello ladies!  I hope this note finds you doing well and enjoying these gorgeous summer days!  I was writing to let you know that we are working on postponing support group until a week from Monday night, July 23rd.  We were originally scheduled for July 16th but as it turns out, due to unforeseen circumstances,all three of us (Renee, Alaina, and I) will be in 3 different cities and Adrian is not one of them!  When The Christian Mission opens on Monday morning (they are closed on Friday’s) we will call to confirm that our meeting room is available for the 23rd and we will then meet at our regularly scheduled time of 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm.  If you do not hear back from one of us before then, it means we are a go-ahead!  If the room is unavailable then you will hear back from us with alternate plans!  We apologize in advance for any inconvenience this may cause.  We realize that 4 weeks is plenty long enough in between groups and another week is just a plain bummer! 

     This also means that group will take place after the golf outing instead of before.  Know that we are still open to more volunteers.  We will be meeting at Demor Hills Golf Course in Morenci, MI at 7:00 am and the golf outing starts at 8:00 am.  If you have been working on collecting sponsors for the golf outing you can bring them with you on the 23rd , call one of us to meet with you before the 23rd, or mail the sponsorships to the following address:

Tiny Purpose

P.O. Box 83

Blissfield, MI  49228I

If you have any questions regarding support group or the golf outing please feel free to call or e-mail any one of us at the phone numbers and e-mail addresses included or at our tiny purpose e-mail addresses via the Tiny Purpose website. 

Thanks for your understanding!

Alaina : (C)419-392-7574

Renee : (H)517-486-5707  (C)517-673-4517      

Kristin : (H)517-486-5976  (C)517-605-5327